"Men might throw their weight around at the office, but at home, women are the bosses," so concludes a just released study led by David Vogel, a psychologist at Iowa State University.
The research finds that in decision-making and domination of discussions women exert more power in the home. So what else is new? If you get bored with this just skip to the end and get the results of my study.
Looks like the old "it's got to be 50-50" for a successful marriage has been debunked and apparently doesn't apply anymore.
Vogel and associates at ISU surveyed 72 married couples with an average age of 33 who had been married for an average of 7 years. Each of the spouses answered questions about "relationship satisfaction and overall decision-making ability." Then each of the participants picked a relationship problem which they felt had to be resolved with the cooperation of both partners.
You might be surprised that money and housework were the most popular picks by both, but the more intimate areas of marriage relationships didn't come up as a marital issue.
The couples were videotaped for 10 minutes as they discussed the relationship problems each had suggested.
Upon analysis of the tapes, the researchers found that wives were more demanding (it took research to find that out?) and they were more likely to get their way (same comment as the demanding part).
"Women were communicating more powerful messages, and men were responding to those messages by agreeing or giving in." I don't see a lot of difference between agreeing or giving in -- in either of the cases the man loses.
"Women are responsible for overseeing the relationship, making sure that the relationship runs, that everything gets done and that everybody is happy," one of the researchers said.
Where does that leave us men? Agree to everything, continue to bring home the bacon, do what you are told, pretend you are happy and slip off to the nearest watering hole with the boys for a mutual complaining session -- but things ain't gonna change around the old homestead.
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